People show diversity in erotic fantasies. Some of the most common sexual fantasies are ménage à trois, sex with a hot stranger, being submissive (tied up, spanked, etc.), having sex in public, dressing up and playing different roles, sex with past lovers, group sex, being watched while having sex and watching others.
Almost all people have fantasies about sex. Research suggests that sexual fantasies are normal and quite common. They can be part of daydreams or erotic dreams. Sexual fantasies allow people to explore and challenge their sexuality in their imaginations. Studies suggest that mental excursions, such as fantasies, during intercourse can increase sexual arousal as well as response. Fantasies also help couples coming out of their sexual shells and may provide sexual novelty and different sexual dynamic.
Some erotic fantasies are kept just for solo pleasure, and others are shared with a partner or partners. Some people never act on their imaginations and others do so. Some people feel guilt or disgust about their confusing fantasies especially those that are socially, religiously, or morally unacceptable.
Exploring and acting out sexual fantasies can be a rewarding and positive experience as long as it is consensual, mutual, and enjoyable for both partners. Sharing sexual desires can create a sense of sexual anticipation and improve an intimate connection.
How do you stimulate your mind? How free are you to express your sexual fantasies without feeling judged by your partner? How open is your partner to discuss what turns him/her on sexually?
Le couple by Jacques Lipchitz